Chapter 18 Study Questions
1. In the first few paragraphs in the section "Give the Blessing of Rebuke," I said that one of the most loving things we can do for someone is tell them when they're in the wrong. Write your response to that statement.
2. Review the section "Seek to Sympathize." What does the term "the Golden Rule of Rebuke" mean? How does keeping this Golden Rule in mind motivate you to graciously initiate a rebuke or correction toward a brother or sister in Christ when you observe some misdeed or sinful tendency?
3. Carefully read Matthew 18:15-17; Hebrews 3:12-13; Luke 17:3-4; 2 Thessalonians 3:14-15 and James 5:19-20. Record your observations related to giving the blessing of rebuke in loving humility. Note in particular how each text makes restoration the aim of correction.
4. Perhaps you have experienced that awkward moment as you offer a word of correction to someone. Or maybe you have experienced the inner turmoil of needing to provide a word of correction, but something kept you from it. Identify and describe a particular experience. Include why you chose to correct or why you didn't.
5. Your personality and particular wiring affect whether confrontation is easy or difficult for you. And all of us are conditioned by our society, which makes us less likely to embrace the awkward moment of rebuke. Explain how your personality and society's influence affect your willingness to give correction to a Christian brother or sister.
6. Scan back over the seven steps in the section "Give the Blessing of Rebuke."
a.) Draw a horizontal line on a piece of paper. Write "Easy" on one end of the line and "Difficult" on the other. Add some points along the line. Choose a few of the seven steps and label the points along your line with these steps to show which are easier and which are harder for you.
b.) Explain how this information will affect the way you will pray when you realize the need to rebuke a fellow Christian.
7. In light of James 5:19-20, consider your own life and the lives of those in Christ around you. Perhaps there was a time in your life when you were wandering, and someone, serving as a God-appointed means of grace to bring you back, spoke words of rebuke to you. Identify those in your life right now who are wandering. Consider whether God may be calling you to lovingly and humbly speak a kind, clear word of rebuke. Write your prayer for restoration on a piece of paper or in your journal.